You teach them how to love and when it goes sour they start stalking you and leaving threatening messages on your voicemail. Next thing you know you have to tell security at your job to keep an eye out for your crazy ex-boyfriend so you can sneak out the back door, cut through the alley and walk the extra 4 blocks to the train station up the street. As you’re walking to the train as fast as you can on the hottest day of the year in 3-inch heels, you ask yourself, “Is this my life? Who did that guy become? Is this the price of love?” Damn!

Before teaching him how to love, she was such a sweet girl. Now that inexperienced just-turned-20 year old has turned into one of those no-nonsense beltway bitches, who must make conscious decisions to find “healthy” relationships by overanalyzing every prospect. Fight it girl, fight it!

The question remains: Can you teach someone how to love? Since I went to college and passed Intro to Psychology with a C, I am not an expert. However, I do believe that Love is the alter ego of Crazy. It can be taught, but must be taught from birth. It is a learned behavior passed on by the mother or nurturer of a child. Real Talk: “She’s not your mama. If your mama ain’t teach you how to love, don’t expect someone else to tough it out through your nonsense.” So in the meantime, the in-between time, take control of your life and be careful to whom you give your love; they just might not want to give it back.